Kids Grow Up Fast
We took The Girl to visit a college one day last week. She may or may not attend that particular college; however, visiting with administrators and coaches really drove home the point that, in less than a year, she’ll be a freshman in college, and we’ll be “empty nesters”. It seems like just yesterday that we had two small babies. It’s hard for us to believe that one is already in college and the other is in the midst of deciding which one to attend. We’re self sufficient, and there is more to our relationship than just the kids; but it’s still going to be a big adjustment for us. Kids have a different perspective on many things and we’re going to miss talking about “stuff”. The house already seems emptier now that The Girl is driving and spends more time running errands and doing things with her friends.
Earlier this evening, we were listing to the song 1999 by Prince and discussing how we remembered when the song first came out (in 1983). It seems like 26 years has passed in the blink of an eye. It good great that we’ve been together that long; but our live together has had many stages. We’ve adapted to and ultimately thrived during each one; but the next one somehow seems different. Unlike in the past, I sometimes find myself looking backwards rather than forward. I’ve always been a “look to the future” sort of a person; but the future seems unsettled. We’d always planned to start a family and have a big house on a hill. (Our house isn’t that big and the “hill” isn’t very large but it is and will always be home.) We didn’t think about after that very much. Now that time is almost upon us and we’ve got a lot of planning to do.
Being “empty nesters” it means that you won’t have to worry quite as much about hiding the fact that you want to fuck in the house when and how you want.
It is funny to look back to that song to remember where we were all at during that time. That song was the jam too.
Rage: We’ve never been bashful about spending time the bedroom when the kids are home. They know not to disturb us excerpt in an emergency. And, since the master bedroom is down the hall from the rest of the bedrooms, we’ve got relative privacy so we can let loose if we want too. Having the house to ourselves will be nice; however, if we want to get freaky in the home theater or other rooms when we’re just hanging out.
California Girl and I met in 1983 so many songs from that year have extra meaning to us. Almost all our favorite songs from back then are records. From time to time we play some old LPs and singles and it really takes us back.
Time does certainly fly- i cannot imagine how much life will change when my kids are older and off on their own; surely it must be bitter sweet. As Rage said i am certain it must have some definite positive aspects. i just hope that when my time comes i have a decent relationship with my kids and they visit often…
Viemoira: The “problem” is that they are busier than when they were in high school when they were in college. Our son is not that far away so we could visit our some more often; but we don’t want to disrupt his studies. (The same goes for calling to much). When he was home, if he was at the desk studying, we would leave him alone and, if he was just hanging out, we might do something together. Now, except for holidays, timing is much more difficult.
Sweet!
Rage: Since The Girl drives (and has as busy of a social life as we let her) we’ve got the house to ourselves a lot these days so we are getting a preview of what next year will be like.