Where Did Everyone Go?
You may have noticed that there are fewer blogs in the “Daily Reads” section of the sidebar. It seems like almost overnight; blogs went offline or changed to invitation only. For most of them, I know why it happened so I’m not worried about the author; but I still don’t like to see it happen.
I know that we were offline for several days this past week but that was due to a problem with the server as opposed to California Girl and I deciding that we shouldn’t be blogging any more. It was a strange combination of circumstances which lead to the downtime that probably will never happen again; but I’ve taken some steps to prevent it from reoccurring nonetheless.
I have come across some interesting new blogs that I added to the “New Reads” section most recently Pale is the New Tan; but, sadly, there are more removals than additions. I know that it is the way of the blogosphere but that still doesn’t make me wish it was not so.
If you are one of the people who have recently taken you blog down or changed it to invitation only, best of luck to you. I hope that everything turns out OK. It was a fun ride while it lasted. I am very glad to have met you. Thanks for all that you have shared.
Blogging is a committment I’ve never been able to make. But reading, yes! Have so enjoyed and learned and been moved by reading such dear, open, and sharing people. In my 3 years here on the Blogsphere so many wonderful bloggers have come and gone. Ironically, over the last few days they have been on my mind and they are so missed. Like you say – it was a fun ride and I’m so glad to have met them. And of course so glad to have met you both.
I’ve noticed it too. It seems to be happening more frequently lately. It’s really sad when thta happens. But I suppose if we were ever found out, we’d probably take ours down as well. It would be nice if we didn’t have to keep it a secret but society is just not generally accepting of this sort of thing just yet. Too bad.
Rosie: I never thought of blogging as being a commitment; but, of course, you are right. I know that people have good reasons to take down their blogs; but after pouring out their lives on like for so long, I’m always concerned when they vanish without warning. When I think about it, a LOT of people have come and gone. I’m glad to have met them and enjoyed what they shared but I wish they were still here. We’re glad to have met you as well.
Boyfriend: California Girl and I understand the risks too. Blogging is a great pastime; but, it’s something that we do for fun and, sadly, there are always people who can make it un-fun. I know that blogging has caused problems for people in their real life and that doesn’t look to change any time soon. I think it’s sad. Especially since most NSFW blogs are a reflection of real life. People just don’t usually talk about what goes on behind closed doors. Blogs are one of the few places where people can be honest and avoid being judged. I hate to see people lose that outlet.
Guest_9309: They were just sites where people blogged about what was going on in their lives. Sometimes it was their sex life. Sometimes it was their love life. And sometimes it was just their life in general. Since we are all relatively anonymous in the ‘net, people tend to talk about more on their blogs than they do in real life. So, if someone that they know in person comes across their blog, it can be problematical. I’m not sure that’s what happens but that is one of the perils of blogging. Would you want the person in the next cube over knowing intimate details of your life? Some people are cool about it but others are complete jerks.
Years ago, a woman I know entered her picture in one of those “Girls Next Door” type magazine contests. She didn’t win for the month and receive the big prize; however, she won a small amount of money and her picture appeared in the magazine. Most people who saw it didn’t say much, or offered their congratulations for being a runner up; but, one really creepy guy gave her a hard time. I didn’t even buy/save the magazine; but he bought it, and carried it around with him. Not quite a stalker; but not normal either. Those are the people that you worry about.
I have noticed it too, and was going to pull together all the ones that seems to have disappeared or have become unavailable into a post, but you got to it before I had the chance.
In most cases it has been, what I think, to be a loss. A good example is Art of The Secret Brain.
I have been doing this for two years and I started to wonder if I was becoming old and stale, that I had been doing it for too long. I came to the conclusion that as long as I have the passion in me I’ll keep blogging.
One thing for sure, I hope I never have to see you and your love leave the wonderful and special sex blogosphere.
After our recent short absence we have noticed quite a few of our daily reads have disappeared or havent updated for quite some time.
In some ways it is sad when a favourite just disappears but I can understand why people stop. I would hope that if we ever decided to end we would have a goodbye post rather than just disappear.
Ms SD
Dirty Debbie: I can see how some people get burned out. But I don’t think that blogs get “stale” since there are always new readers. I know that I am always looking for new blogs to read. We’ve been blogging for over two years hope to keep going for many more years to come. Your words of encouragement are especially appreciated.
Ms SD: I would like a farewell post too; but I understand that sometimes that can’t be arranged. When it does happen, you can’t help but wonder what happened. Even though you may have never met them in person you still care about them and hope they are doing OK.