California Girl Is Still HOT
Miss_Chamko recently posted the following question on our Why I Think My Wife is HOT post.
I can’t help admire your admiration for CG. I am not sure how to ask this but is it that you’ve never either one of you flirted with anyone else since you’ve been together? And if CG told you she is attracted to someone else and wasn’t sure of her love for you, what would you tell her?
Since that post was so long ago, I though that I would answer her question here.
If California Girl was attracted to someone else I’d find him and put a major beat down on him so that he’d be too scared to call, much less come around. Seriously, I’d fight to win back her affections; but I’m not sure what that means. I don’t have a lot of charms so I’d probably have to think for awhile about what to say to convince her that I’m the one for her. Every relationship, our included, has its ups and downs, so I’d want for her to think about how things compare when we are flying high versus whatever problem we were having that made her susceptible to someone else in the first place. And to remember, the grass is always greener on the other side of the hill. When you’ve been together for as long as we have you know almost everything about each other, both good and bad. Someone new is always “better” since you haven’t yet encountered their flaws.
I meet people from time to time who seem genuinely interesting and sincere; some of whom even make propositions to me. But somehow I just can’t imagine myself anyplace but here. What we have is rare and I don’t think that it could ever be replicated. California Girl was there in olden times when things were great. She was there when we had small kids and things were not so great. And she’s here now when things are going pretty good. The experience of living through those times has made us who we are now. Without having been there, I don’t think anyone else could come close to understanding me, much less reproduce the connection that California Girl and I share. And I still think very few, if any, women out there are hot for same top ten reasons as California Girl.
I just love how much you guys still dig each other. Inspires me and gives me hope (married 10 years here). You are right on the grass always seeming greener though. I don’t think you find out someone’s faults for a long time into a relationship!
“But somehow I just can’t imagine myself anyplace but here.”
I think that’s what it takes to keep things in perspective and a clear head.
That’s marriage in a nut-shell.
I’ve seen too many friends go for the greener grass and live to regret it. Turning the blind eye, I’ve always prefered to say, “Faults? What faults?”
I have been reading here for quite some time now and I think this may be my favourite post of yours. I can only imagine how wonderful CG must have felt reading this.
Ms SD
MCB another post that makes all your readers, me especially, think you are the greatest. We have been through so much in our lives that a mere look or glance and we are 99% sure what the other is thinking. We can calm each other with a smile which I know you guys do too. Hope you are able to get the pool open soon. The other thing I love about you and CG is the fact that you admit sometimes life isn’t perfect but you always know that you two are perfect for each other. Whenever someone tells me how perfect they are (meaning their marriage) I usually figure they are on the brink of divorce.
A similar question has been brought beofre my girl and myself. She has ask me if I ever think about other people and what might have been. And I have asked her similar questions. I suppose this is a normal reaction since we will be married soon. We reassure each other that no we dont think of anyone else.
Although there is a game we play, where we fantasize about being with another woman together…
You guys are awesome
I feel the love 
Michelle: All too often, people compare what they know about their current partner with what they think about a potential new partner. No one can compete with someone who’s more hope/fantasy than real. Unfortunately, they usually don’t discover that it wasn’t a fair comparison until it’s too late.
Kitty: We don’t always agree; but I know that this is the best place for us. We do things that many other couples would consider strange but they work for us ands we like it. For example, we just went “parking” earlier today. Many people would say that we’re too old for such a thing but we had fun.
Alfie: You’re right. Marriage is all about compromise which a lot of people don’t understand. I think we’ll just stay right here and enjoy what we’ve built.
Ms SD: Yes, she liked reading it. But it’s not what I say that’s so special, it’s what she does.
Interested Reader: The source of all conflict is failed expectations. If you expect things to be perfect all of the time, you’ll always be disappointed. It’s more important to understand and remember what draws you together rather than what drives you apart.
Grizzly Bear: There are always going to be things that you wonder about. But some things are better left to the imagination. Curiosity is natural, it’s acting on that curiosity that’s damaging. Who knows, we might not even be the “right person” for each other; but we believe that we are which is more important. Relationships are all about faith.
Hot Husband: Thanks. We see the love when we visit your blog too.
This is a great post. I think it is nicer when you’ve been together long enough to have some good and not so good with the other person.
Sage advice MCB!
That you wrote so lovingly about CG was very special. Your comments just added to the glow. How great it is to love the one you are with.
Chickie: We certainly have had our share of good and bad. But at the end of the day, the good far outweighs the bad. We just have to be sure to keep it in perspective. All too often, people focus on the negative rather than the positive.
Grizzly Bear: Thanks. It certainly was hard advice to come by.
Rosie: California Girl is a wonderful woman. Our life together has really had its moments.