Making Up For Lost Sex
Today was President’s Day and the children did not have to go to school today so this morning was very restful. So, even though we missed Saturday morning, we had Monday morning (and Sunday morning) so we came as close to making up for missed sex as possible. With all of the two hour delays and other late arrivals that I have been having recently, I am starting to wonder if some of my coworkers have figured out what I am doing with the extra time in the morning. It’s not something that comes in the course of discussion but…
California Girl was still wearing her diaphragm from Sunday night and it had not yet been six hours so she had to get another applicator full of spermicide. So, it was the afternoon before she could take her diaphragm out. The diaphragm has worked for us but it is definitely not a set it and forget it device. Even today, non-hormonal birth control seems primitive. California Girl and I laugh about it when she’s getting things prepared but it is a less than modern contraceptive method.
We both really enjoy our time together but we are probably not as serious/businesslike as some couples. Sex is special for us but it’s not so shrouded in ritual that we can’t laugh about aspects of it that seem funny to us.
As primitive a device as it is, a woman that is willing to use it concistantly has the advantage of NOT screwing up he hormones and although it requires prior planning it demonstrates that the woman is willing to have sex. My first fitting was in 1971 and many tubes of Koromex later we still use it. Well we did break for a couple of children. Wendy and Jim
Wendy: Being non-hormonal is one of the chief reasons that we use it; but much more research could have been done for non-hormonal methods over the years. Sometimes, I think that non-hormonal methods are all but forgotten by the pharmaceutical companies. It works well for us but it would be nice if there was as state of the art non-hormonal contraceptive method.
After the birth of our third child in four years, we decided that was probably enough for us. We didn’t like artificial barriers and the pill didn’t like my wife’s metabolism so I had the “the snip”. It worked for us but I am sure that if more acceptable barrier methods had been available we would have used them.
I am sorry if I seem too prying, but has CG tried the Pill? I have been using it for many years, and it works like a charm!
Love your blog, by the way..
and now I feel like a dork, just now reading the previous comments about her not wanting to use any hormonal contraceptives…..duh….
lol!
“Hey Rocky …… you should buy a condominium.”
Rocky: “Adrian don’t like me to use that stuff.”
I don’t want to sound pushy here, but a couple of weeks ago (I am in the same shoes as Cali girl) Tiger found this on the web for me. I’ve checked into it and it sounds great. There is about 8 doctors on my insurance who does the procdure, 4 of which do it in their office. Some women have even done it on their lunch hour, I think I would be too big of a baby to go back to work but that’s what they claim. Here’s the site for you two to check out and see what you think. http://www.essure.com/
Lapis Ruber: We’re not completely convinced that we are “done”. We probably are, but we’re not certain enough to do something permanent. Some of it may be our feelings about having no more live ammo; but a lot of it is the idea that if we don’t like having an empty nest that we couldn’t do anything about it. We had our kids in our twenties so, if we don’t do anything about it, the plumbing will be working for a while after they have moved out.
Alyssa: California Girl used the pill for many years before we had kids; so we know from experience that it’s something that we could do for the long term. She didn’t have any major problems but she did have some that were related to her use of the pill. Medicine has improved a lot since then and pills today have much smaller doses of estrogen; but they are still something that she probably wouldn’t try again.
And don’t feel like a dork.
Steve: I don’t like to use them much. They get stick to my pubic hair and, for proper usage, you should take them off right away when you’re finished. I like to stay put, sometimes for an extended period of time. On occasion, I will fall asleep still inside California Girl.
Kitty: That is an interesting device but I’m not sure were ready for sterilization. We probably will never have any more kids but it doesn’t “feel” right. If we did, I would probably go for a vasectomy because that’s the most reversible of the “permanent” methods. I wasn’t familiar with the Essure device. I wonder what the long term effects of leaving an implant in are.