In The Past Tag
We have been tagged by Married With Sex to post about what do you remember from a past love that makes you feel guilty or odd for remembering.
Midwestern City Boy:
As long time readers know, I am sentimental about birthdays. I like to celebrate my birthday on my birthday and feel bad when people forget about it.
Well, a long time ago, in the days before California Girl, I was spending my birthday alone. My Dad had decided to go visit my sister and my parents were on the road so I didn’t even get a call from them. I was in college at the time and no one I knew remembered. Not a single person wished me happy birthday. I was miserable. I grabbed dinner somewhere and was sitting around waiting for the day to end when there was a knock on the door. It was my ex-girlfriend.
She had come (unannounced of course since she was an ex) to wish me happy birthday and had brought me a card and some candy. Of all the people, she had remembered. We had parted on OK terms, not the best, not the worst; so I was surprised and touched. We talked for a while. She had another “present” to give me and ended up staying the night. She had another boyfriend; but, at that moment, that didn’t matter to either of us. So, what began as a birthday that I wanted to forget ended up being quite memorable.
It wasn’t the something that got us back together. In fact, we both continued to see other people until we lost touch with each other. But I will never forget how she changed a bad day into a good one.
That’s incredibly sweet, and it’s tough for guys because it’s not as if their male friends will remember their birthdays for them! I do know some guys who keep in track, but none of them are college-aged. Sounds like a sweet story with the right amount of emotion and being in the moment.
What a nice memmory to have, particularly in a situation that could have turned out so poorly.
Thats a great story, very touching.
Thanks for sharing.
Ron
VM: It was sweet. And very unexpected. I almost wanted to cry. We weren’t “compatible” and had no future together but we did a very good job of living for the moment.
Monty: It still bothers me that my dad would rather go visit my sister than all or visit me on MY birthday if I let it. I know she is his favorite (we all do, including her). But, I still don’t like having it rubbed in my face.
Ron: It was actually my ex that did everything. I thanked her at the time; but I wonder if she knows how much it meant to me.
Dear MCB,
You always share such wonderful stories about CG so it is obvious the kind of man you are (that being a great man)! This story I think will touch many people because sometimes I think we all wonder whether or not we should do something if it would be appreciated or if someone will think we are an idiot and your story makes me think most people do appreciate thoughtful things done to show you remember. I sent someone a birthday card because I remembered it was there birthday ( a business associate that we really didn’t talk to much anymore) and he wrote back the nicest email saying it meant so much that I took the time. I had really thought about it before I sent it worrying that he would think what is she sending me a birthday card for so thanks for your story. Your ex would probably be really happy to know you appreciated what she did as she too was probably comteplating whether or not to do it. I like to think most people are nice and thoughtful but sometimes in business you meet so many jerks you start questioning!!!!!!
As always you truly have one of the best blogs on the internet due to your ability to write so well and convey your thoughts!!!!! Hope you are enjoying the pool and working on your tan ( I had to say that to make you laugh!!!!!!)
Interested Reader: It was her personality and I did thank her but I don’t think that she know the impact her act of kindness had. She knew me pretty well (which was both a blessing and a curse. (Some things I did really annoyed her.) Its not a good idea to keep up with exs but I would like her to know that I have some good memories.
I think that many people that you meet (especially in real life) are self absorbed. But thats what makes blogging so rewarding. Its one of the few venues where we get to choose who we get to associate with.