Ask MCB/CG Day - 11
Today is ask MCB/CG day. We try and do this once a month for any new readers. Everyone is welcome to ask a question. We usually do this the third week of the month but last week was so hectic that I forgot about it. This is the twelfth time that we have done this. The questions have been pretty interesting in the past. I’m note sure how many question that we will receive with the Fourth of July weekend upon us; but that will also give us plenty of time to talk about the answers. Here are the rules for any new visitors. Feel free to ask us anything. We’ll respond in the comments or, if the answer is long, in a separate post. We will answer anything that is asked, usually before our next post. If you don’t read this when its first posted but still have a question, go ahead and ask it. There isn’t a cutoff date. So please leave us a question if you’ve got one.
Comments
Comment from JB in PA
Time June 30, 2006 at 6:22 pm
How often do you have anal sex, and which one usually requests it?
Comment from exile
Time July 1, 2006 at 1:29 pm
you obviously have a huge sex drive, how do you maintain that without your partner thinking that sex is the most important thing to you?
Comment from Valerie
Time July 1, 2006 at 3:40 pm
Morning sex, right before bedtime sex, SURPRISE middle of the night sex(”well… as long as we’re both awake for some unknown reason at 3am…”)or all of the above???! I can’t get enough, but he’s a morning person and I’m best at night… (and unfortunately, afternoon delight is kinda tough for now…!!!)
Thanks!!
Valerie
Comment from Cara
Time July 2, 2006 at 1:39 pm
What trimmer does CG use? I’m in the market for one and the one she uses seems to do the trick!
Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time July 2, 2006 at 9:49 pm
Patrick: When they were little, they would bang on the door and ask if we were jumping on the bed. It’s actually easier when you have older children because they have so many things to keep them occupied. For instance, today (Sunday), The Boy was playing a first person shoot-em-up game on the computer in their study. Then he was in the basement on the game console. He was so engrossed in his games that he probably didn’t notice that we took a long shower after our swim. The Girl was at her grandparents but when she is here, she is always out in the neighborhood playing with her friends. Plus, we’ve always showered together so us being in the bedroom with the door closed is not unusual. And our bedroom is and has always been off limits to the children.
Exile: One of the great things about this being a joint blog is that California Girl contributes too. This question is really for her.
Sometimes we have had misunderstandings when I (California Girl) thought we were having a reasonable amount of sex, but Midwestern City Boy felt that it wasn’t enough. It doesn’t make me feel like an object if he just says that he wants more sex. After all, it wouldn’t be realistic for me to expect that we would both have exactly the same amount of sex drive at all times. What bothers me the most is when he gets grumpy and doesn’t explain the reason why. Sometimes I can figure out that the problem is lack of sex, but other times I get my feelings hurt because I think he is complaining about something else.
JB in PA: California Girl here. We don’t have a regular schedule for anal sex. Sometimes we do more of it for a while, then not so much. I’m not sure what makes one or the other of us think about it.
Valerie: Morning sex when we’re on our summer schedule and aren’t in a rush to take the kids to school. Right before bedtime sex when we go to bed at the same time. And early evening sex (before a late dinner) when our evenings aren’t too hectic. Lately, there have been a lot of “double headers” with morning sex and then early evening or bedtime sex. Or early evening and bed time sex. And occasionally morning sex, early evening sex and bedtime sex. That’s the great thing about summer.
Cara: California Girl uses a Remington BKT-1000 Trim & Shape Bikini Trimmer for the middle part and her regular razor (that she uses for her arms and legs) around the edges. The bikini trimmer has multiple height adjustments but she uses the lowest one.
Comment from VM
Time July 5, 2006 at 2:54 pm
Do you think that having regular (and good) sex helps you stay in the groove of sex and continue wanting it regularly? [I think you've written that there times in the past when you weren't as active as you are now.] Also, do you think that most people probably will end up either doing the hotwife thing, having an affair, or trying to swing in order to keep their sex lives interesting? –VM–
Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time July 6, 2006 at 9:06 am
VM: Absolutely. Once you lose your grove it’s hard to get it back. Especially as hectic and tiring as ordinary life is these days. I think that you have to make time. You can’t just expect things to happen like they did before the time and energy obligations of kids and family.
I think people can keep their sex lives interesting without doing the hotwife thing, having an affair or trying to swing but are probably still going to end up doing things that might be considered adventurous. Sex outside or in unusual surroundings. Blow jobs in cars. Going to swing clubs. Dressing in revealing clothing for a night out on the town. Exhibitionism in general. Playing but not swapping with others. Just whatever they can think of to keep things new and interesting. Spectators or “helpers” can be fun but completely involving other people can cause unforeseen problems.
Comment from Patrick
Time June 30, 2006 at 6:28 am
How do you pull off a ‘robust’ sex life seemingly during the hours when your older (and “aware”) children are up and about?