Married In Ohio

Comment from HIM
Time April 21, 2006 at 2:20 pm

how do you thik you would handle it if your kids found out about your blog? Maybe one of their friends parents found it? What would you say to them and would you continue? WE have been asked this question as of late and it does make for a good conversation starter.. heheh Have a great weekend.

Comment from Cara
Time April 21, 2006 at 4:59 pm

Hello. I’ve been enjoying your blog for a while now, and I’m a big fan. You guys give me hope that passion and romance can exist!

My question is: what was this last blow out fight about??? You guys never seem to really have fights but this one seemed a doozy, so my curiousity is killing me.

MCB and CG rock!

Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time April 21, 2006 at 10:22 pm

HIM: I don’t think that they would be interested n our blog. They’re smart enough to figure out what we’re doing all the time in the bedroom with the door closed so, other than the descriptions, this blog doesn’t tell them much they don’t already know. Now we do things away from the house like visit swing clubs that isn’t typically dinner time conversation (which is an understatement) but our bedroom has been off limits to them for so long I’m sue they realize that we do stuff that’s really none of their business.

Both kids are generally good kids so I’d like to think that they’d stay away if we told them it was off limits. Their online experiences are closely supervised now as it is, so I don’t see them having the time to visit sites with adult-oriented material. Even if we didn’t detect their visit immediately for some reason, we would notice very quickly, and I don’t think that they’d consider reading it to be something worth getting in trouble over.

I think that we would continue. We’re the adults after all. We can’t abdicate control to the children. They are a big part of our lives but they are not the only thing in it. We’d be sure to tell them that it was none of their business; just like many other sites on the web. I KNOW our kids aren’t interested in sex right now. They think it’s gross, and would think doubly so if it involved us so I don’t think they would have the insatiable curiosity that other kids might have. Frankly, things would probably be more difficult if they were older.

Cara: It’s not so much what the fight was about as much as the fact that it took on a life of its own. It’s almost inevitable that you have “baggage” when you’ve been together as long as we have. The trick is not letting the past creep into the present. You have to focus on the positive. Usually we’re pretty good at staying in the present, but we both have old wounds that occasionally come to the surface. A couple of weeks ago was one of those times that BOTH of us were wounded and hurt at the same time, which is a recipe for guaranteed unhappiness.

It would take a long time to recount all of the issues that we talked about. Most of them were completely unrelated to the initial disagreement. And some of them were not as fully discussed when they first occurred as we thought that they were, which led to more discussion. There is a lot of energy in our relationship which is a good thing except, of course, when there is an argument. It’s resolved now which makes us both very happy.

I hope that this explains what happened well enough. If not, let us know and I’ll try again.

Comment from Stace Johnnson
Time April 22, 2006 at 10:51 am

Is there anything that you or she won’t do sexually that the other one really would like?

Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time April 22, 2006 at 10:08 pm

Stace: If there is, the other one hasn’t dared to bring it up and we’re not going to do it right now. I think we are pretty adventurous in two person activities but we’re always looking for new thing to try as long as they don’t include a bunch of extra participants. But just one extra woman … something to be considered.

Comment from Kelly
Time April 23, 2006 at 12:14 pm

Ha..an extra woman? Be careful what you wish for! Actually I’ve heard great stories..and horror stories about three somes.

What I think defines if it’s good experience or bad experience..is the relationship between the participants (and you two are perfect..you are open..you communicate..and you love each other) and the normalcy of that third party.

IF you ever experience this..I hope you share..I’d love to hear.

And if you don’t…well I don’t believe all fantasies are meant to be experienced…what’s the fun in that???

Comment from Diane
Time April 23, 2006 at 6:16 pm

been lurking for a while ~ what a great blog!

Here is my question because I think of it everytime you talk about having to interrupt the moment so CG can go insert her diaphram.. why use a one? Why not an IUD, I only say this as a women who used a diaphram for a while and hated it! I Loved the 10 years of no worries and no interuption and total spontanity I’ve had with the IUD! Just wondering…

Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time April 23, 2006 at 9:20 pm

Kelly: There’s a LOT to talk about so who knows if/when something like that would ever happen. About the only think we’ve decided is that we think we’d like MFF better. It’s on the “to do” list but not among the top items. Its one thing to have spectator/participants. It’s another thing to “go all the way.”

Diane: IUDs are great. No hormones but still very low chance of pregnancy. California Girl used an IUD before and it worked very well. But she had problems when she had another one put in after The Girl was born. Maybe it wasn’t fitted properly, or maybe it was put in too soon but ultimately she decided to use a diaphragm. We’ve been using one for 14 years now so we’re comfortable with it. And you can insert it in advance if you’ve got some special activities planned. We’re pretty open about sex so we joke about it. The last time she put it in beforehand and I went down on her, I ended up easting quite a bit of Gynol II but she usually does a good job of not getting it on the non-essential parts. Its harmless, bit spermicide tastes well like spermicide.

Comment from Cara
Time April 25, 2006 at 6:38 pm

Your answer was gracious, thank you.

Wooohoooo it’s Two for Tuesday!!

Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time April 25, 2006 at 8:31 pm

Cara: You’re welcome. Sometimes our lives aren’t so simple, and it’s usually when we disagree.

We’ll be having our photo session shortly.

Comment from Kristen
Time April 26, 2006 at 12:44 pm

MCB & CG - I’m a longtime reader, but this is my first time participating in Question Day. First I’d like to say that your writing is great, from describing something every-day like the pool opening to the sweetest taboos of lovemaking. I hope you don’t mind but I actually have a few questions!

1. What else do you enjoy as a couple (or as a family), outside of the MCB/CG world you discuss here? Do you like to travel, go to restaurants, see movies, or go to museums or concerts?

2. Speaking of concerts, I’m wondering if I could ask your advice! I’d like to go to ao concert after work tonight with my friends, but it’s a bit of a train ride, and I have work tomorrow. But it’s going to be a great show, and I’m afraid of what I’ll miss if I just stay home. What would you do?

3. Your home seems very spacious yet minimal. Can you take us on a tour of the rest of the house sometime?

4. Forgive me if you’ve answered this on another Question Day, but what’s the wildest place you guys have ever done it?

Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time April 26, 2006 at 10:08 pm

Kristen: We don’t mind questions at all. In fact we enjoy it. Here are your answers.

1. We don’t travel much. We prefer to stay around town and enjoy each other’s company in familiar surroundings. For relaxation, we like to play computer games like Age of Mythology, and recently, a port of Doom (one of the first first-person shooters) to Windows. We love going to our favorite restaurant either as a twosome or as a family. During the school year, we spend a lot of time attending sporting events, both ones that the kids are competing in as well as football and basketball games since those teams are pretty entertaining. We’ve got a pretty nice home theater so we watch a lot of “spectacle” type movies in it. One of our favorite things to do is order a pizza and watch a movie. Even though we’ve seen it several times, at least once a year, we watch the Special Extended Edition of Lord of the Rings. And every summer over the Fourth of July holiday, we watch Independence Day. We do go to concerts, but ticket prices have become so outrageous recently that we haven’t been to one in a while.

2. You have to see the show. Unless you live in a very large metropolitan area, live music performed by one of your favorite artists is a rare treat. It will be worth it even if you’re droopy at work tomorrow. You have to do the things that make you happy while you are still able to enjoy them. Some time in the future you might not be able to attend no matter how much you want to. Then, the only thing you will have will be of your memories that you make today and tomorrow.

3. Our home is our “dream home”. We built it a few years ago and have thoroughly enjoyed it. In real estate terms, our house would be described as 4 bedrooms, 4.5 bathrooms 2 story brick with 3 car garage; but it is much more than that that to us. We all collaborated on the design, even the children, so this house is a piece of us. We’ll describe it in more detail and perhaps post some photographs in one of our posts.

4. A local swing club we attend. Having “spectators” who stop and talk to you, and sometimes do a little bit more is a definitely a surreal experience. Many people there opt for more privacy but part of the fun of going to a swing club is to see and be seen. So, we’re part of the sights but we do some “sightseeing” as well.