Why Do We Blog
I first started blogging because, with the exception of A Perfect Marriage, most of the blogs I read by men that discussed their primary relationship did not say very good things about the woman in their lives. Since I really love California Girl, I thought that it would be good to post about a happily married couple from a man’s perspective. So Married In Ohio began with me shouting “I love this woman” from the roof tops.
From the early days, even though I posted more California Girl was heavily involved. She read draft posts and made suggestions, she edited my replies to comments and we frequently discussed the topics in our blog. Although it was initially my creation, this blog very quickly became our blog. Over time, keeping a blog together has become one more thing we do as a couple. Just like the games we first started playing together back in college; it has become something of a shared tradition. We both really look forward to creating our HNT posts. Because of blogging, sex has become part of the regularly scheduled programming on Tuesdays.
This blog is about our life together. Sometimes, it talks about the children. Sometimes it talks about the everyday happenings in our lives. And of course, sometimes it talks about sex. Do we always talk about sex? No. But sex is a big part of our relationship. It’s not the ultimate goal; but it is very important. Having a blog allows us to discuss and explore things with others that would be difficult or impossible in real life. Somehow, I don’t think that my cube mates would understand or agree with much of the NSFW stuff that we post about. But we have hade some very frank and informative discussions with our fellow bloggers.
People sometimes ask in the shoutbox why we don’t have this or that in any of our photographs. Usually, the reason that we don’t is because it’s not us. We share photographs of ourselves doing what we do. Other than having a camera available, our explicit photographs are not staged. We don’t do things just for the photographic effect. That is not to say that we don’t have fun doing things like HNT, but when we’re with each other, our primary focus IS with each other and not what would make a better picture.
We both really enjoy and appreciate the comments that people have made about our photographs. But we are not “comment whores.” We post photographs because it’s fun to do and we both enjoy the shared exploration that comes from letting people see our most intimate moments. Do we have an exhibitionist side? Yes. After all, we are posting photographs on the ‘net for the entire world to see. Is our blog pure exhibitionism? No, it’s an electronic view of what is going on in our lives.
The wonderful people that we have met are another one of the good things about having a blog. We really wish blogging had been around years ago. Being able to discuss some of the issues in our lives then could have saved us a lot of heartache. We both understand the risk of putting as much information about ourselves out there as we have. But, so far, our blogging experience has been overwhelmingly positive. We plan to continue blogging until we don’t have anything more that we want to say. And we don’t see that happening anytime soon. So, to our long time readers we want to say thanks. And to our new readers we want to say welcome.
Comments
Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time March 30, 2006 at 10:46 pm
Ed: It’s easy to be positive after having been together for so long. I think we’re over the humps that many relationships don’t survive. We are glad that you enjoy the view into our lives. We have fun blogging so we’ll keep on doing it.
Comment from Ed
Time March 30, 2006 at 4:11 pm
Wanting to shout from the rooftops is why I started too. Glad to see you carrying on blogging from a positive couple’s point of view. I agree, there’s far too much negativity around regarding couples. And it’s good for the rest of us to share the view of what’s going on in your lives.
Hope you keep going for a good while yet!