Married In Ohio

Comment from Rob
Time February 22, 2006 at 6:44 am

This question can be answered pvtly if you wish but how are things going since we last exchanged emails?

Comment from DisappearingJohn
Time February 22, 2006 at 9:00 am

Okay, a bizarre question. What did you do on your first date? When was it? (I ask only because I have been getting a lot of kidding because my wife and I celebrate the anniversary of our first date every year (which was 22 years ago yesterday)

Comment from Kalani
Time February 22, 2006 at 10:39 am

For some reason the other day I was thinking about you two and wondering what you two would ever fight about because you seem so good at communicating I couldn’t imagine you fighting, though I am sure you do sometimes, so my question is how do you usually resolve your conflicts with each other.

Comment from Salsatantra
Time February 22, 2006 at 1:48 pm

My question is the following:
The lifestyle that both of you are experiencing (especialy the sexuality part) … would you advice it to everybody? Even your own children? And would it be a solution for most relationships problems?

Sorry … it became 3 questions instead of 1.

Comment from MamaKBear
Time February 22, 2006 at 3:07 pm

You may have answered this one before, but I wondered…What kind of challenges have y’all faced being a mixed-race couple? Especially at the beginning of your relationship.

Comment from willie
Time February 22, 2006 at 7:47 pm

we enjoy your stories but wonder why not keep the famous diaphragm right beside the bed so cg can just slide it in instead of having to get up and go to the bathroom. A picture of her getting it ready to go in would be awsome. Your diaphragm is famous all around the country. Do you know of any other blogs were a woman uses a diaphragm.. We have as much fun with ours as you guys do so we enjoy hearing about other diaphragm couples.

Comment from Lori
Time February 22, 2006 at 7:55 pm

With your post about The Girl getting calls from boys, it made me think. Have you guys had “the talk” with your kids? Did you both talk to both? How did it go?

Comment from Narcissus
Time February 22, 2006 at 10:14 pm

You both always look so happy in your photos. Is there ever a time that one or the other of you just doesn’t feel like taking the photos for HNT or your Tuesday posts? Do you still take them, or do you keep some saved “in reserve” in case that happens?

Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time February 22, 2006 at 11:16 pm

Rob: Thanks for asking. I will send you an e-mail tomorrow.

DisappearingJohn: There is no such thing as a bizarre question; especially in blogland. California Girl and I met in college so our first “official” date was the homecoming dance in the fall of 1983. California Girl still remembers the giant purple flower I got her. I remember taking her to a nice French restaurant (even though I don’t particularly like French cuisine) since it was the only nice restaurant that was a short walk from campus. That was over 22 years ago but we still have the picture we took together that evening.

Kalani: We have had our fair share of fights. More in the past than recently but they do still happen. We have to work real hard at communicating since we have such different communication styles. Poor communication is usually the root cause of all of our arguments. We resolve conflicts by talking and talking and talking. The horse is usually long dead and burred before one of us gets what the other was trying to say.

Salsatantra: It’s difficult to “let it all hang out” on the internet like we do but (once we got over our fears) our blog has really kept things interesting between us. It’s important to keep the fires burning and having this blog is one of many things that we do as we try to avoid falling into a rut. I wouldn’t advise it to everybody. Different things work for different people. We wouldn’t recommend it to our kids because we don’t think that there old enough to truly understand. And when they are older, I still wouldn’t want them reading our blog. Not so much because things are a secret but because I think it might subconsciously inhibit us.

The solution to most relationship problems is communication. So, I would recommend having a blog to the extent that it allows better communication. But it needs to truly be a joint endeavor in order to work. It should NOT be a platform of complaining about each other in public.

And no problem about having three questions. Ask as many as you would like.

MamaKBear: We met in college so we didn’t face a lot of challenges. The people that we hung out with were very open minded so we didn’t have a lot people whose opinion mattered judging us. There NEVER were any problems between us because of it. It took our parents a while to come around but eventually they did. (All except my dad who even went so far as to stop paying toward my college tuition). Our planned wedding was not very popular so we ended up having a small (4-person) ceremony. One of these days, I’d like to renew our vows in a church wedding and have a big reception afterwards.

Willie: We don’t keep the diaphragm beside the bed because we don’t have a night stand. And keeping it in the bathroom forces us to make sure that its put away properly and minimizes the chance that we’ll lee it or some other sex related thing laying around and end up fielding questions from the kids. They’re probably old enough to play dumb now but that wasn’t the case when they were younger.

We do have some pictures of California Girl applying Gynol II spermacide. And I know we have some from a couple of years ago or her putting it in. We’ll do a photo post on the diaphragm sometime in the future. I know of no other blogs where the woman uses the diaphragm. Its kind of “old fashioned” compared to all of the new hormone delivery methods. I can’t recall anyone else besides us mentioning one either on blogland or the 3-D world

Lori: It’s more just been in bits and pieces as things have come up. They think sex is “gross” and I’m hoping that they keep feeling that way for a while. Generally, I communicate better with the Girl and California Girl communicates better with The Boy but I left the conversation about female anatomy to California Girl. There is not much we can do now except hope and pray that we built them the right way and hope that come to is if they need to talk.

Narcissus: We always take new photos for each week’s HNT. We don’t keep any in reserve. And on the few occasions where one or the other of us hasn’t felt much like taking photographs, having the photo session anyway actually helped us forget the troubles of the day.

Comment from willie
Time February 25, 2006 at 7:42 pm

We enjoy your posts and can’t wait for the photo post of cg putting jelly on the diaphragm and then the pictures of her putting it in. We both wish that photo post was tonight. I guess we are old fashioned also but we have fun with the “fram” willi sometimes puts it in for me. Kids have found our diaphragm but they understand what its for. Even got one for the daughter recently.

Keep up the wonderful posts and get the diaphragm pictures up as soon as you can. Thanks and best to both of you you guys are AWSOME.

Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time February 26, 2006 at 7:19 pm

Willie: Even though its birth control, we keep California Girl’s diaphragm in the same drawer as Mr. Pink and other “adult themed” items. And we haven’t had those discussions with the children yet.

We’ll post photographs on Tuesday.