Married In Ohio

Comment from Chickie
Time July 28, 2005 at 1:33 am

You think she can’t be possibly following the Senior color scale but you never know. I tossed out my virginity when I was just shy of 15 and a friend (who’s mother never had any idea what was going on) was doing hand jobs at 12.

I’m not saying that your kiddo is, just that you never freaking know nowadays.

I think the way the bracelet thing works is if a boy breaks one of a certain color then you “owe” him one of whatever the color stands for.

I am so glad we only have boys. What’s the saying “With a boy you only have to worry about one dick and with a girl you have to worry about all of them”.

May I suggest birth control in the morning along with a chewable vitamin?

Comment from Ed
Time July 28, 2005 at 4:45 am

I’ve never heard of colour codes meaning different things. I hope that’s an American thing. Otherwise I’m badly out of touch!

Comment from Kelly
Time July 28, 2005 at 2:13 pm

Hmm..If it’s a US thing…Maybe it’s also an Ohio thing? Or I’m out of touch with Ed!

Comment from doogooder
Time July 28, 2005 at 2:45 pm

OH Brother… it’s only starting. Get your game face on for when she brings home the boyfriend!

Comment from TwiddlyBits
Time July 28, 2005 at 3:16 pm

Do youhave a list of the color codes? Jr & Sr?

Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time July 28, 2005 at 6:53 pm

Chickie: You’re correct in that you never know for sure but we’ve got a pretty good idea about the girl The Girl. We know here pretty well and we know what to watch out for.

I’m not remotely concerned about The Boy. He has far more interest in video games than ion girls. He goes to dances and stuff but doesn’t have nearly the interest in girls that I did at his age. I’m sure that will change but for right now, we are just enjoying it.

Ed: There are indeed to sets of codes. See below. I don’t know if it’s an American thing or not.

Kelly: I don’t think that there it’s just an Ohio thing. Elementary schools and Jr. High schools everywhere are banning the bracelets. Maybe the tamer scale isn’t as widely known or used. Around here, the younger kids all try and act cool and that means imitating things that there older siblings and friends too. I don’t know of this happens everywhere or just in Midwestern cities.

DG: I’ve already got my speech prepared and rehearsed for the first boy that she brings home. I’m really hoping that we’ve “built her right” because from here on out we don’t get much of a vote.

TwiddlyBits: Here are the two scales

Sex Bracelet Color Codes
Yellow: hugging
Purple: anal sex
Red: sex, coital or oral, lap dance, (alternate meaning: with no condom)
Blue: blow job
Black: sexual intercourse, coital or oral, (alternate meaning: with condom)
Orange: kissing, necking, bare breasts
Green: cunnilingus or outdoor sex
Clear: whatever you want
White: flashing or gay kiss or french kiss
Glow in the Dark: with sex toys
Red & Black: 69
Pink: licking butt or analingus
Silver: fisting
Gold Glitter: make out
Brown: toss my salad ie analingus

Sex Bracelet Color Codes for School Children
Black: sex, coital or oral
Orange: kissing
Yellow: hug
Blue: oral sex, or lap dance
Red: Body contact, lap dance, french kissing
White: Friendship
Green: give a flower, or touch me or hug
Pink: flash your stuff
Purple: holding hands
Gold Glitter: make out

Comment from Kelly
Time July 28, 2005 at 9:10 pm

I need to pay closer attention..I had no idea?

MCB you can use my father’s line…the boys who dated us would be paraded in front of him…he’d lean back in a chair in the dining room…then lean forward..and scowl never breaking eye contact..

and then he’d say in his most forboding voice…

“I’m a religious man..and Jesus taught us all to forgive…but fathers…fathers never forget anyone who disrespects their daughters…ever…”

My sister and I can still lay in bed and hear the threat!

Comment from sk
Time July 28, 2005 at 9:26 pm

Hmmm MCB….I heard that all this was a JOKE that kids are using to FOOL PARENTS…BUT…you seem to know what you’re talking about.

Either way…I’d forbid it. And make sure the schools do, also

Comment from Queen of Pink
Time July 28, 2005 at 9:57 pm

Scary, scary, scary. What age is this?? I’ve heard of it, but never knew what age groups we were talking about.

Yikes.

Comment from aderyn
Time July 28, 2005 at 10:46 pm

coming out of lurkdom to say it’s not just an ohio thing, it’s going on in illinois, too. i’m only 20, but this seems to be a more recent thing.

(love your blog, btw)

Comment from aderyn
Time July 28, 2005 at 10:47 pm

and by revealing my age, i meant to say that it hasn’t been so long since i left grade school, and we never did that stuff.

Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time July 29, 2005 at 12:02 am

Kelly: When I was a teenager, I didn’t care what anybody’s dad said; not even my own. My speech is mostly for the girls benefit. I’m just giving it to the guy to make sure that she’ll be listening. I don’t look forward to the onset of the hope and pray days.

SK: It’s no joke. Some kids just wear any color bands because everybody is wearing them. The Girl, however, is way too cool to wear the “wrong” color.

I don’t know whether it’s because I coached youth sports for so long or if it’s just my personality but I still have a bit of “coolness” left and kids will still talk to me. And, in addition to talking to some other kids, I’ve also talked to a couple of other parents who are still wired into the network.

The schools are banning them but that just makes them more popular. And you can’t forbid teenagers from doing anything. You can cajole. You can implore. But you can’t forbid. You just get out of touch and they do what they want to anyway. By the time that I was The Girl’s age, my dad was completely irrelevant. I’ve still got a bit of influence and this isn’t big enough to use it all up.

QOP: The Girl just turned 13 this month. It mostly seems to be sixth, seventh and eight graders. But I don’t know many fifth graders so I can’t say for sure when it starts. And the high schoolers, of course, but I think they use the unmodified scale.

Aderyn: I’m glad that you de-lurked and that you enjoy our blog. I don’t know how widespread the trend is but if it’s in Illinois then it’s probably in Indiana and some other Midwestern states too.

We didn’t do things like that when I was in grade school but I life is so much more different now. The one thing that is constant is that you think you’re invincible and bad things only happen to the people. That is both the best thing and the worst thing about being young.

Comment from Sue
Time August 1, 2005 at 3:02 am

Like Ed, this is all unknown to me to…and scares the heck out of me

The thing here are different coloured charity bands-

White - Make poverty history
Pink - Breast Cancer aware
Green - ecology

etc etc

No concerns for daughter - she makes her own necklaces and bracelets….not a coloured band in sight….

Son wears the odd coloured band but, as I said, no hidden meaning - that i know of anyway…..

That whole thing you mention is really scary - but i expect it will get here sometime! We will let you know..

Comment from Midwestern City Boy
Time August 1, 2005 at 4:29 am

Sue: I’m glad that the trend is not where you are but it is the latest thing here. I wasn’t even counting charity bracelets like those. Lance Armstrong’s “Live Strong” bracelet is yellow but it’s fine. She also has a green one and a blue one for various things but those aren’t in the same category. All types are banned at school but there is a difference. She also wears another yellow one which is the one that I’m concerned about.